Thursday, May 5, 2011

Why Me?

Growing up with a disability you would think there would be many "why me" moments, right? Why do I have to be stuck in this wheelchair? Why do I have to have multiple surgeries? Why do I have to work so much harder to physically do what all my peers do effortlessly?

That is what I think anyone would expect for someone with a disability to deal with mentally.

Not me!

Now, I would be lying if I said I never had a boo hoo moment, but to be honest, I can only remember one and I was in elementary school. After a few minutes of complaining to my father, all was right with the world again. I think I just had to vent.

I think, no, I KNOW, my attitude towards having a disability was instilled in me by my family. I am the only one in my family that has a disability, but I was never treated as if I did. I lived by the same expectations everyone else had. I was taught that yes, I may have to do some things in a different way, but nine times out of ten, there is ALWAYS a way.

I laugh to myself when I hear people jumping on the "why me" band wagon over the most trivial of things. I believe we all deserve our pitty parties, but I also believe that it is a positive attitude in yourself, a solid support system and your faith that will get you through whatever obsticle/s you're facing.

So why me?

I like to think that I was meant to be in this wheelchair for a number of different reasons.

Why me? Because perhaps, if people get to know me, the real me, not what they see on the outside; they may realize that they shouldn't judge people's character or abilities by their outside appearance.

Why me? Maybe I can help lead the way for others with disabilities to accomplish their goals and dreams.

Why me? Because when families with children that have a disability meet me and I can be an inspiration to them and help ease their worries about their child's future.

So the next time you are having a "why me" moment. Try to turn it around and think of the positive that could come out of it and ask yourself,

"Why not me?"


  1. Jamie-

    You are truly an inspiration to not only your friends, but everyone you come in contact with! I love reading about your stories and adventures.


  2. Jamie,Your positive attitude reassures me that I am raising my Jamie without limits and he will be all the better for it. Reading how your parents treated you encourages me to keep doing what I do with him. Thanks for sharing! Amy

  3. I agree with what you said, Jamie. I just hate when parents are like, "Your not normal.You need to have friends who understands you." I just think its a load of BS! Like in my situation and we sometimes talk about that, Jamie..I keep remembering what I was told and its still hurts me that she even suggested that the reason why you are my best friend is cause you understand me..

    You have a great positive outlook on things and I wish to GOD I can take a lesson from you..I think I do sometimes...I'm glad you are here to remind me and others. Thanks for that.

    Kristin Marie

  4. As Mother's Day approaches, I'm reminded of what a precious gift God gave to me on the day you were born. You never cease to amaze me and truly are the greatest inspiration in my life!